C-PTSD sufferers display a view of themselves, the world and others through the distorted lens of complex trauma. Complex trauma victims struggle to maintain an objective and neutral perspective due to the negative adverse experiences that shaped their neurobiology and ability to live in the present without an exaggerated need to protect themselves against further hurt. If you believe that to be your case, it is helpful to identify the beliefs that perpetuate a sense of unsafety, hopelessness, powerlessness, disconnection and isolation, such as the ones mentioned below:
I am damaged goods.
I have no control over my emotions.
I am alone in this world.
I cannot trust anyone.
When things seem to be working out for me, I should expect something bad to follow.
If anyone finds out who I truly am, they will leave me.
I am unable to feel okay with whom I am.
I am not safe.
Nobody understands me.
I am cursed.
Intimate relationships are sources of pain, therefore, they should be avoided.
My mental health problem is beyond healing.
I am unable to make relationships work.
I am crazy.
I will never be able to do well in life like other people.
I have no control over my own body.
A few people might like me, but they do not know the real me because if they did, they would not.
I am less than others.
Things are harder for me than for other people.
I must make sure to always avoid people, things and situations that trigger me.
I will never feel free from my abuser(s).
I am powerless against my abuser(s).
I will only overcome my trauma if I manage to distance it from my mind completely.
I will only overcome my trauma if I manage not to feel any emotions related to it completely.
All my dysfunctional behaviours are effects of my trauma.
I cannot manage the effects of my trauma.
I will only feel okay once my abuser(a) is(are) dead.
When things get tough, it is best to move away from the problem.
Others see me differently because of what I went through.
Things will never work out for me.
As rigid beliefs like the ones listed above fail to make justice to our complexity, as well as our ability to manage vulnerabilities and live a fulfilling life, I would highly recommend you to take time challenging the ones that resonate, somehow, with your own thinking. If you need help to understand why they are dysfunctional and how to refer to them as such, click here to access my list of cognitive errors.