Positive beliefs and affirmations to help you overcome codependency

Codependency is a common effect of both relational and developmental trauma. Adult children of dysfunctional families who did not grow up feeling felt, heard and seen, struggle to connect with a healthy sense of boundaries and self-esteem also later in life. Therefore, they are highly prone to resort to codependent behaviours to feel safe and accepted in relationships. Here is a list of positive beliefs and affirmations to help you overcome codependency:
I am good enough for myself
I am good enough for others
I am loved
I am loveable
I am whole, even when alone
My worth is unconditional
My feelings matter
My needs and wants matter
My opinions matter
I matter
I can tolerate others’ discomfort
I can separate from others’ feelings, needs and wants, and focus on my own
I can handle my own discomfort
I can tolerate negative emotions
I can recognise and validate my feelings
I am emotionally aware
I am self-aware
I have a great connection with my body
I am emotionally autonomous
I am emotionally mature
I am safe in my own body
My body is my best guide
I am aware of the impact others’ have on me
I am much more than my relationships with others
I favour relationships which foster personal growth
I favour relationships with those who respect my feelings, needs and wants
I know how to honour myself through assertive behaviours
It is okay to say no to others
Self-agency is a gift
I am wise
My wellbeing comes first
I can say no and honour my boundaries
I am competent
I love my own company
My time is precious
I am a survivor
I am strong
I accept my vulnerabilities and limitations
I accept others’ vulnerabilities and limitations
I respect others’ needs for autonomy
Mistakes are sources of wisdom
I am worth of respect
I am worth being treated with kindness
I can tolerate rejection
I can tolerate inadequacy and insecurity
I am brave
Your values, or the views you hold of yourself as an individual and in relationships tell you about the role you play in them. When rigid and filled with negative bias, they feed dysfunction and create a psychological barrier between you and your authentic needs. In order to lead a more satisfying and authentic life, proactively challenge negative thinking patterns and feel free to use the positive beliefs and affirmations listed above as guides to a more functional approach to relationships.